When You're Exhausted & Want To Quit: The Secret To KEEP GOING (No Applause Needed)

Hey, it's Zaje' and this is a very impromptu message. I just went for a run and got these downloads. It's really similar to what's been happening in my life, but I feel like it can potentially resonate with you as well.

These past couple of months have been kind of low. It's been a grind. It's been a lot of discipline.

It's been a lot of effort that you've had to put in and you're expecting a return on the investment that you're putting out. Of course, why not? But it just seems like nothing is coming back and you're doing, you're doing, you're trying, you're creating, you're producing, you're doing all of these things and it's crickets, right? First of all, this time has been learning how not to only have discipline, but discipline without the applause because people have gone away. The people who used to cheer you on and root you on, they went away.

Why did they go away? Because they weren't supposed to be there for this season because they weren't good for you anyway. The cheering and the applause was really for an association with you. It was really just to get in the middle of whatever it is that you have.

They wanted to be a part of it, but when they realized how authentically you were living your life, they couldn't keep up and so they created chaos to kind of throw you off because they were thrown off and you didn't respond to the chaos because you've grown past that. We're not doing that anymore. Very much not doing that anymore.

So they went away however they went away and you've been left by yourself. Isolation. You've not even been trying to create relationships, form them at all.

Very much over it and so that's been the last couple of months. Waking up feeling like here's another day. I'm gonna keep going.

Don't know where I'm going, but I'm gonna keep doing it. Having many points of success, but still feeling like I'm failing. Still feeling like this is not working out the way that it's supposed to be working out.

I don't know what I'm doing wrong and I don't know what I'm doing right and wanting to quit. Hopefully you have somebody in your life. I have my husband who always like talks me back into it even though I'm just like I don't I don't see where this is going and he's like you've created so much.

You've done so much, but I've done this so many times just for it to have failed in the past or what I feel like was a failure and I see myself going down the same road and I'm kind of hesitant. I don't want to do it again. I don't want to lose again.

I don't want to fail again, but you still keep going. You still say it's just a day. It's just one more day.

Just one more day. Just day by day, moment by moment, minute by minute. I saw a video the other day because I was actively looking at like what to do when you feel like a failure and he said find something that keeps you going because nobody wins when they quit.

Winners never quit. Quitters never win. My dad always says that so if you get to a point where it feels difficult and so you stop you'll never win.

If you look at everybody who has been successful to this date whether they have money or not there's still a trial and tribulation period for us all and sometimes it's repeated throughout your life especially if you want to continue to level up. There is a level up-ness that does not feel good. It feels like an attack.

I don't know if it's a spiritual attack from people who didn't get to stay around, stick around for the rest of your journey. I don't know if it's the planets and alignment. I don't know if it's depression, anxiety, energetic.

I don't know what it is but you sometimes get into these spots where it's just like I don't know up from down, left from right. I don't know what's going on. You get better at dealing with it as time goes on.

You realize that they are awakenings to the next part of your life and you realize what it is you have to do in the midst of it. When I tell you you gotta find something to get you through it I go and get me some cute drinks. I will go and get me some good food.

I will go and buy me some candles. I'll do all this stuff but it starts to feel like it's not doing anything. When I tell you how many fragrances I've offered this house around my birthday because I'm like it's a new year for me.

Solar return. I'm doing all of these good things in my life. I want I want it to smell good.

I have a house of sons and a husband. I want it to smell good and I was going in buying candles and room fragrances and car fragrances and body oils and perfumes and I was like I still don't feel what I want to feel and why don't you feel what you want to feel because it has to come from in here. It can't come from outside.

It never will. So you've done these things right? You've ate the foods. You've drank the libations.

You've partied. You've gone to concerts. You've read books.

You watch videos. You dance. You do this.

You do that. You do whatever and then you come to self and you cry it out. You yell it out.

You do whatever you have to do just to get out that energy. A good way is exercising. I told you I just went on a walk ran a third of the mile and I started getting the downloads.

You have to process these emotions in your body and the only way to do it is to get physical. Not think about it even more. You just spiral even more and what I noticed when I ran was all of the positive things that have been happening in the last couple of days and you might have felt this shift.

I wasn't seeing any synchronicities for months. I always see synchronicities. You can go on my TikTok and see.

I always see synchronicities. I post them sometimes. I always see synchronicities.

I always see something to keep me going and I wasn't seeing anything and all that told me was I have to find it in here. There is no external validation. It's all internal.

The external is a manifestation. The external is a reflection. It's not where it begins.

r husband that passed away in: 2020

I was like okay hey poppy. I really didn't think anything of it because he pops up every now and then in his way. Take her her food and she was like oh I found an envelope of two dollar bills I have for you and I'm like okay.

She was like yeah I got all this stuff in my drawer and I'm like why am I holding on to all this stuff so she gives it to me. She says it's $38 in there and I'm like oh my gosh I just turned 38. This is like a birthday gift and we laughed.

I still didn't pitch it. I still didn't say oh it's synchronicity. I really didn't.

I was just like oh my birthday until I ran today and after I ran and processed what is in my body trying to out the frustration, the feelings of delay, stagnation. Once I got all of that out like I felt in my body I needed to run. I haven't ran in months.

I started getting the messages. I started seeing the synchronicities. Here's a plate with my birthday on it.

Here's a plate with angel numbers on it. My mind is cleared. If you have been getting the messages to get into your body it's because the messages are ready to be processed in your intuitive mind, in your third eye, in your higher chakras, in the fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh, eighth, ninth, tenth dimension of things, in the interconnectedness of everything, in the universe of us all.

We are all connected. Do what your mind and body is telling you to do so that you can receive because you're moving. You've been moving.

It just didn't feel like it. It didn't look like it but because you kept going, because you said I can't stop here. This is stupid.

If I stop here this is how I'm gonna feel for the rest of my life doing this. There's no way I'm stopping here because I don't like it here. I don't like doing this.

I don't like this house. I'm ready to move. I can't even find it within myself to love my home but I love certain things about it.

I love that it's in the shade and when I come in here it's cool even in the summer. I don't have central air. I don't have the air conditioner on.

You see it. It's cool in here. I'm sweating a little bit but it's okay.

It's cool. It's not as hot as it is outside. I have a huge backyard.

I can't really be in it because of mosquitoes but we do what we can so that we can spend some time out there because they will light my legs up on fire. It's a safe neighborhood. There's really no violence.

There's some crime but everybody has crime. It's not that big of a deal. I can walk down the street if I want to.

I just don't. I go somewhere else to walk because I like the water and the ducks and the dragonflies and it's just so cute. I love my kitchen.

I love my living space, my living room area. You can't see it when you walk right in so it's like really cozy. I love different aspects of it but I'm ready for the next thing.

I've been ready for the next thing for like three years. I also saw in the midst of all of these energetic changes a woman becoming a Supreme Court Justice at 55 years old. Former President Barack Obama was making a statement about her saying that she came from poverty and she got to be in this position in life through hard work and dedication.

I said 55 years of it. Some things do take time and the journey is what it is because who wants a 20 Supreme Court Justice? They don't know anything. You got to work a little harder.

You got to do a little bit more things. You got to experience some things. I see people always arguing with Gen Z and Gen Alpha and whoever.

Why are we arguing with them? They are children. They don't know anything. They haven't been anywhere.

They haven't seen anything, anybody. They don't know nothing. Why are we arguing with them? Just look at them say okay.

In due time, in due time. If it's been feeling hard for you, go run. Go walk.

Get into your body. Let it out in that way and then listen because you're getting messages. You are, you're always exactly where you're supposed to be for whatever it is that you're supposed to be doing.

I wrote a book called Happy Habits where I talk about this part in life where you realize that there is effort involved but it's not just physical. It's mental. It's emotional.

It's spiritual. It's social. It's different forms of effort to put in at different times of your life and I feel like you've done the physical work.

Now it's about the mental and staying inside of that grind and that's what the happy habit is, right? Replacing old habits that no longer serve you and won't get you to where you want to be and building new ones that will because we can spiritualize a whole lot of stuff but over spiritualizing it just leaves you stuck in one position waiting for somebody else to do something whether it's man or god. You're waiting for somebody else to do something when really it's your turn and so you build these habits. For me, the habit was getting up every day and doing it anyway.

The habit is listening to my body. Oh, I need to go run. I need to take a walk.

It's hot outside. I need to go run. I need to take a walk.

The habit is taking a break. I have been running full force taking these college classes for a degree that I want and I have to remind myself I want this. I'm not taking this because I want to get a job with somebody.

I'm taking this class because I want to have the knowledge for myself for the things that I do. I haven't even been feeling like writing songs or recording or singing or performing. I'm not in that season right now.

Hopefully, I will become the woman, become herself and then I'll start singing and performing again but right now I feel like it's a time to step away because the people that were coming around me based on that aspect of myself, I didn't want them around me. I had to change my positioning and now I'm ready for those people but I'm not looking for them. I'm not going towards them.

I'm the person who can discern. I'm the person with more boundaries. I'm the person with more confidence but I'm not ready for them yet and so I know that it's not the time for that yet and I'm just moving how I'm being led.

My own book helped me get through this. My own book. Creating happy habits is not just like a one-time thing you get in a spiritual awakening.

You create some habits and boom you good for the rest of your life. No. Every time you want to level up, it's time to make some more happy habits.

It's time to create more structure in your life, remove some things that don't work and add some more things that will. That's all. Happy habits helped me and then the other thing was my focus framework.

I also have a break framework that's in the book, Happy Habits on How to Break a Bad Habit but the focus framework also helps you get in tune right now. Find out what's true. Own your role and what you did.

Choose what matters. It's always you. It's always you.

You matter. Use what you have. Use the resources that you have around you.

Use the people that you have around you. Use what you have in order to get balanced right now. Stable right now.

What can you do to help you right now? Then show up for yourself. Every time you show up for yourself, you build trust in yourself. You build confidence in yourself and you keep going when nobody else around you is giving you the applause.

You will not always get applause. There will not always be somebody around to say, yes, you're doing such a good job. Keep going.

You got to do that for yourself. I'm tired of doing everything for myself. I'm tired of cooking my own food, cooking my kids' food, cleaning up.

It's just so much effort involved with everything. I want somebody else to do it. But that ain't it.

Maybe one day, maybe one day when I have my multi-millions, I'll have a chef. I'll have a cleaner come in. I'll have somebody landscaping.

Maybe I won't. Maybe I'll still do it on my own because I like keeping my coin to myself. I don't know.

We'll see. But it always comes down to you, not anybody else. If the Happy Habits book, if Focus Framework Workbook feels like something that you might want in your life, go to becomingherself.com/newsletter.

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It is the first song of seven in the album called Songs of Becoming that really just help you get through the day. When I say you, I mean me. I play my own music.

I don't always do that, but I play my own music because those songs really came from my core for those times of transition, transformation, transmuting energy in your life. When you just need that, pick me up. If nobody else is around, honey, I got you.

You get that song for free. It's also on YouTube. I will link it so that you can listen to it.

Just see if you like it. Then head over to becomingherself.com/newsletter and get it for free. I do want to say that I'm proud of you.

I'm proud of me. I'm proud of us. We are undoing things that we didn't choose to undo.

Maybe before we came here, we did. That's what they say. We chose this life, but we got here.

It's like, whew. It's a little tough. This is a little bit of a lot.

I'm proud of you. Treat yourself to something and with that treat, remind yourself that you are the center of your universe, nobody else. Whatever it is that you want in your life, talk to your higher power, write it down, make it real in the 3D when you write it.

Then be it. Show up for yourself. Thank you for tuning into this episode of Becoming Yourself and watching to the end.

You know I appreciate you so, so much. I will see you on the next episode. Bye.